Comments on: Standing On The Sidelines, Waving and Grinning

By: Dan

Dan — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 00:22:12 +0000

You know, I got to the first paragraph and my cynical cap was ready to be placed, and my fingers were ready to type the whole “there’s always another side of relationships behind closed doors that you never see, so you can’t really judge” and all that shit. But I kept reading, and you know what? Everything you said here? You’re fuckin’ right.

I read this, then immediately went and told my girlfriend that I loved her.

By: Kath

Kath — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:06:23 +0000

Fantastic post. So good I am going to tweet it.

As someone who also knows what it is like to observe but not participate, I do think we have a much clearer view of the whole thing than those that are unable to ever be single.

It certainly appears to be an advantage! I would like, one day, to find somewhere in between “spectator” and “major league athlete”, though! Nothing too hardcore, just a pro-am player, maybe? Heh.
-Jasper

By: Scotty

Scotty — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 06:17:34 +0000

Gold Jasper, gold!

Thanks Scotty! I’m going to go out on a limb and say I’m preaching to the choir, here? :D
-Jasper

By: Byron

Byron — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:59:06 +0000

Let us be married. Married and have babies.
Oh wait, my boyfriend would probably take issue with that.

You’re absolutely right, Jasper sir. You have managed to articulate my thoughts better than I could myself.

By: Derek

Derek — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 17:19:23 +0000

1.) I *do* have a penis *and* I love your mind…so if I were 10 years younger I’d…

2.) I’m not long out of a nearly 20 year relationship and all the points you made are just so spot on.

I have to admit, there was a tiny part of me that worried I was way off – that people would just tell me “nope, that is wrong wrong wrong”. But hearing it from people who would know (20 years!?) puts my mind at ease. And simultaneously disturbs me, because it means I’m right, and people really are being horrible to their “loved” ones needlessly!
-Jasper

By: slybeer

slybeer — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 14:47:53 +0000

I got so overexcited that I actually posted that before I got to the end of your entry.

This?

And if what you currently have isn’t what you want? Then get out. Get out now. You are not doing anyone any favours by lying to yourself. You’re only going to cause more pain for you, for them, and for the people around you who are right now being forced to watch a train wreck in slow motion.

Is bang smack the fuck on.

Hehe, that bit nearly didn’t make it. I thought of that piece of advice early on, but by the time I got to the end of the entry I’d forgotten. It wasn’t until I was in the shower ten minutes later I remembered. It took nearly all my willpower not to leap out of the shower Archimedes style (I refrained from shouting ‘Eureka!’) to change it while naked and soapy.
-Jasper

By: slybeer

slybeer — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 14:45:16 +0000

You’re making me wish I had a penis so we could be in love.

You speak the truth, my friend. The ex (I suppose technically I should say ex-ex, now, since there’s now been an ex in between) & I used to do this shit to each other all the time. I’m happy to at least be able to say I have learned from it, and H & I were never like that. We just appreciated each other for who we are. I think that’s always easier in the beginning, but it’s certainly my intention to keep it going for however long the next relationship may last.

Now THERE’S a word that I should have included. ‘Appreciate’. That’s totally what is missing out of so many of the relationships around me!
-Jasper